Can you ladies share your opinion with me as to when DH and I should tell people about being pg? So far, only those of you on here know. (I know this is long. Thank you to those of you who read it.)
Last pregnancy, I was a little hesitant as I guess I had a bad gut feeling. DH, however, wanted to shout it from the rooftops immediately. We ended up teling people at 5 weeks, because it was Thanksgiving and he was bursting. My family was so excited that they shared the news right away too. I literally started spotting a day later and knew it was a m/c within another week.
I wish more people woukd talk about m/c because I know it affects so many people and it's not the fault of the woman. For that reason, I hated a few well-intentioned but insensitive comments made after people heard of the miscarriage, but I didn't mind that people knew. At the same time, I absolutely prefer to grieve privately, or with DH, so I shut myself away from the people who had known for a bit.
Wel I'm now at just over 5 weeks, and everything feels right this time. My biggest concern is my lack of a few common symptoms (nuasea and sore boobs), but I know it could just be early, especially because my numbers weren't really high right away.
I have an u/s in a few days. I'll be 5w5d based on my lmp, but I'm probably a few days behind that. DH wants to wait until I'm comfortable, and I guess that would probably be after hearing a heartbeat, but I'm not sure.
I just know that I've been disappointed in myself that I'm not that happy or excited about this yet. I mean I am, but I think I'm in self-preservation mode, so I'm keeping my emotions in check.
Would you suggest that I tell after seeing a fetal pole and yoke sac to start celebrating this baby? After a heartbeat? I don't know if I could wait much past 10 weeks, but should I try? I don't want to get hurt again, but I aso believe that what is meant to happen will happen, irregardless if anything else. If that's the case, shouldn't I celebrate the fact that I am pregnant now?
I'm actually feeling guilty for not being more excited right now. I also wish DH acted more excited, but I know he's in the same position as I am. If we do talk about it, we say "if the test goes well..." Or something of that nature.
Any advice or suggestions? Thanks ladies. I'm so happy to have people to turn to here.
Last pregnancy, I was a little hesitant as I guess I had a bad gut feeling. DH, however, wanted to shout it from the rooftops immediately. We ended up teling people at 5 weeks, because it was Thanksgiving and he was bursting. My family was so excited that they shared the news right away too. I literally started spotting a day later and knew it was a m/c within another week.
I wish more people woukd talk about m/c because I know it affects so many people and it's not the fault of the woman. For that reason, I hated a few well-intentioned but insensitive comments made after people heard of the miscarriage, but I didn't mind that people knew. At the same time, I absolutely prefer to grieve privately, or with DH, so I shut myself away from the people who had known for a bit.
Wel I'm now at just over 5 weeks, and everything feels right this time. My biggest concern is my lack of a few common symptoms (nuasea and sore boobs), but I know it could just be early, especially because my numbers weren't really high right away.
I have an u/s in a few days. I'll be 5w5d based on my lmp, but I'm probably a few days behind that. DH wants to wait until I'm comfortable, and I guess that would probably be after hearing a heartbeat, but I'm not sure.
I just know that I've been disappointed in myself that I'm not that happy or excited about this yet. I mean I am, but I think I'm in self-preservation mode, so I'm keeping my emotions in check.
Would you suggest that I tell after seeing a fetal pole and yoke sac to start celebrating this baby? After a heartbeat? I don't know if I could wait much past 10 weeks, but should I try? I don't want to get hurt again, but I aso believe that what is meant to happen will happen, irregardless if anything else. If that's the case, shouldn't I celebrate the fact that I am pregnant now?
I'm actually feeling guilty for not being more excited right now. I also wish DH acted more excited, but I know he's in the same position as I am. If we do talk about it, we say "if the test goes well..." Or something of that nature.
Any advice or suggestions? Thanks ladies. I'm so happy to have people to turn to here.
sharing and feelings
0 التعليقات:
إرسال تعليق